In our hour together, I took some time to ask about his family upbringing and about his relationships with his mom, his sisters, and the women he’d dated. I was probing a bit, to be sure, but a kind of holy curiosity is necessary in counselors. We don’t merely offer solutions; instead, we ask significant questions. I discovered that the man was the youngest of four siblings, all girls except for him. Because he was frequently teased and often felt left out, he grew up secretly resentful of the females